With only a few days before the elections divisions are being drawn. Labour, conservative and the liberal democrats. The left the right and the kind of middle. But that's ok, that's politics, that's how its supposed to happen.
So why do i feel that in my current single situation lines are also being made. Its beginning to feel like a battle between the haves and the have nots. The haves as in have a "Boyfriend or Husband" (BoH/ pronounced Beaus) and the have nots, ie the singletons, ie me.
As more and more of my friends are getting married, or increasingly serious in their relationships the number of single people are fewer and fewer. Now don't get me wrong, I don't resent the haves and their beaus, I am quite positively happy for them as I know that mine will come along too, what I am bothered about is the obvious separation between the two.
Since when did dinner parties become couples only? Weekends away? invites for drinks? Ok yes, admittedly I cant really join in on conversations revolving around the colour of the curtains, mortgages, or how i am jealous of Beaus PA but that doesn't mean I should be excluded - I could still try and give my opinion, it just might not be very informed as I'm not there yet!
Some friends when they meet their other half you don't see ever, or only when Beau is attached to their lips, some friends you don't see Beau for at least a year that you begin to doubt if he actually really does exist, and some friends keep a happy balance between the two. If I'm honest I know I probably spent too much time with my exes friends and integrating in his circle that we didn't do enough in mine. But we still had dinner parties with single people, in fact we were quite pro at hoping to match make our single friends from each side, we still went out with single friends, we even went on holiday with a whole load of single people because fundamentally single or not - these people were my friends.
And that is what bothers me about this situation. Am I a better person if I am with someone else - no? Does it make me more interesting? More sociable? I hope not. Sure they add to you ( providing hes not a boring know it all loud mouth) but he shouldn't dominate your rankings on the social calendar.
My single friends, I promise you when I meet my Beau I will remember this and remember you. You will still be invited to my dinner parties and drinks. We will still go out - without any lip attachments , I may moan to you about my mortgage or the quality of Beaus DIY skills yet I wont presume you wont know anything about it and i wont go on about it either. I will probably more interested in your stories and adventures of the single life anyway!
As for the haves out there - don't forget your single friend, you might be at different stages in life but you have shared a history that runs deeper than wallpaper colours. And who knows, you might even have another single friend who might like your single friend and get together, and then if you persist on having couples dinner parties they too can be on the guest list.
Forget party politics, social ones aren't that easy either! Rant over for a Wednesday, I am going to go out with my single friend and enjoy what time we have being young free and single in 2010.
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